Last month we began discussing “after rehab” then what. For everyone, the overwhelming emotion is FEAR. It is one of the most basic human emotions.
The most common categories of fear are:
Fear of failing (for the addict in recovery)—what if I cannot do it? But what if you can? Either way you learn important lessons about yourself and life.
Fear of not being “enough”(for those trying to help)—we are all children of God. How can you not be enough?
Fear of disappointing people(for the addict in recovery)—Their disappointment is their emotion. Your job is to be the best you you can be.
4) Fear of fear (for everyone)—The only thing we have to fear is fear itself (FDR)
It seems our life today is fear filled. We fear terrorism, death, losing control, commitment, failure, rejection, etc. etc. Coming home after rehab is scary also. According to Buddhism, there is unhealthy fear and healthy fear. For example, when we are afraid of something that cannot actually harm us – such as most spiders – or something we can do nothing to avoid – such as old age — or something that may not happen then our fear is unhealthy, for it serves only to make us unhappy and paralyze our will. On the other hand, when someone gives up smoking because they are afraid of developing lung cancer, this is a healthy fear because the danger is real and their fear leads to constructive steps you can take to avoid it.
What is important is that we do not automatically react to fear by hiding. Fear is just a warning light, there to alert us that we need to inquire more deeply into ourselves. Sometimes we discover that we grow stronger and wiser by moving for-ward, into and through the fear. Often we find the fear was not something to fear. Sometimes, we discover that we need to stop and reconsider. What matters is that we use fear as a means to grow and become more self-aware.
Healthy Reasons to Push Through/Challenge Fear:
When the gain outweighs the pain—fear of backsliding. We can start again.
When we are not willing to give up the thing that we are afraid of—
When we want to be free to do the things we want to do — and don’t want to be controlled by fear. Several times in the Bible, God tells us through angels and others to “fear not.” I have always thought that was God wanted us to be our best and use our fears, our talents, who we are to be better.
Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
NOTE: The Healing Places ministries will walk with you and try to “able” success. We have provided help in times of family addiction issues, helped in covenant with some of our economically challenged neighbors/members, etc. We also want to remind you that offerings at the altar rail during communion are for emergencies. If you are approached about helping someone, please refer them to the senior minister. While most who ask are fine, there are a few that will “panhandle” the congregation.